Few understand the union of woman and man - the big divide
Compromise is not a four-letter word (literally and figuratively thank you). It is not something that makes you less than a man or woman. You are not weaker, inferior or lacking in intelligence to give in to it. It seems as if people have become so caught up in their "victimization" that they fail to see that things are not all about them. It does not matter the situation of the relationship, the inability of compromise permeates the pending demise that will ensue.
Meeting in the middle and realizing the other person's point of view is essential even in the most platonic relationships, for it is our friendships, that form bases of our relationships. We most possess and offer compassion towards those whom we call friends, before we can ever offer that to those whom we want as lovers.
One of the biggest forms of compassion is the realization that your intentions don't mean anything when they have offended or hurt someone you care about. In all honesty you might be the right one in the argument, your point of view might be the logical one, you might actually be totally justified in what you have said or done. But when being right, and not willing to budge from this stance, comes at the cost of causing someone pain (emotional or otherwise) what have you actually gained? It did not get you anywhere with the person whom you had the disagreement with. You might get the "yeah you were right" from your people (guys dont act like you dont talk to your boys and ladies you know you share a little too much with your girls) but in the eyes of the person whom you hurt you are a jerk or a b*tch.
We have got to get passed our egos and need to be right in order to coexist emphatically. Men are actually stronger and even more of a man when they are willing to work it out with the lady/friend/sister/acquaintance in question. Women are actually more in tune with and more engaged with the man/friend/brother/lover when they put their emotions aside and listen to what he has to say and both sexes will be on a path to better understanding the other.
Meeting in the middle and realizing the other person's point of view is essential even in the most platonic relationships, for it is our friendships, that form bases of our relationships. We most possess and offer compassion towards those whom we call friends, before we can ever offer that to those whom we want as lovers.
One of the biggest forms of compassion is the realization that your intentions don't mean anything when they have offended or hurt someone you care about. In all honesty you might be the right one in the argument, your point of view might be the logical one, you might actually be totally justified in what you have said or done. But when being right, and not willing to budge from this stance, comes at the cost of causing someone pain (emotional or otherwise) what have you actually gained? It did not get you anywhere with the person whom you had the disagreement with. You might get the "yeah you were right" from your people (guys dont act like you dont talk to your boys and ladies you know you share a little too much with your girls) but in the eyes of the person whom you hurt you are a jerk or a b*tch.
We have got to get passed our egos and need to be right in order to coexist emphatically. Men are actually stronger and even more of a man when they are willing to work it out with the lady/friend/sister/acquaintance in question. Women are actually more in tune with and more engaged with the man/friend/brother/lover when they put their emotions aside and listen to what he has to say and both sexes will be on a path to better understanding the other.
posted by Ariane Patrice | 8:59 PM
1 Comments:
In a world were people have the unhealthy need to be right, this came right on time. I've always been a person that tried to look at all things from both angles, w/out my emotions involved, bc sometimes, there are true misunderstandings. You have to be a very big person to set aside your ego and hear someone out. This is something we all should work on daily. Good post
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